Anorgasmia

What should you do if you dont get orgasm?

You shouldnt worry if you have only started you sex life. You shouldnt raise alarm, especially if your partner is also inexperienced. Orgasm depends on womans experience, her sexuality, ability to direct the partner. All this skills do not come at age of 18. Thats why there are no reasons to worry, just wait a little!

But you do have some reasons to worry in the following cases:
- You get orgasm while masturbating but dont get it while having sex
- You have experienced orgasm before, but dont come with your last partner.

In this situation you should have a talk with your girl-friend. Any specialist can prove that a girl, who has experienced orgasm at least once in her life, is not hopeless. No matter how she attained it: while masturbating, sleeping or riding. She needs only a little practice, time and patience.

Everybody knows that the main erogenous zone is a brain.
The centre responsible for orgasm is situated in ones head. Some women just dont know how to come. These women cant listen to their bodies and sensations. They think of many unrelated problems and do not let themselves relax. In such cases partners experience doesnt play any role. Only women are those who can help themselves. Its easy to orgasm when listening to your bodys reaction.
In fact, masturbation is one of the best ways to develop ones sensuality.
If sex without orgasm suits you and you dont feel dissatisfied and sick we can only be glad for your sake. You can have sex without coming as long as you wish. Just convert your demerits into your merits!
If you arent satisfied with your sex life, you should visit a doctor. We are to warn you that its rather difficult to find a good and tolerant doctor for lesbians. Doctor can ask you whether you tried to settle your matter with mens help. In this case you should look for another specialist.
It was proved that there is nothing in sex that can do a man and cant do a woman.

What should you do if your partner doesnt get orgasm?

In fact, you cant be sure whether your partner comes or not. Many women try to conceal the fact of anorgasmy, in order not to hurt their partners and not to focus on their inferiority. Its rather easy to imitate orgasm. And you can hardly say that your partner deceives you. She gets a real pleasure and feels perfect with you, but in her own special way.

If she has confessed, or you have discovered it by yourself, try to take it intelligently and tolerantly.
Anorgasmy is a very intimate subject. In some cases girls preferred having no contacts to being disclosed and taken for a ride.
If your girlfriend has confessed it means that she trusts you. Dont think that she just wants you to settle her problems. You shouldnt demonstrate that you are a super-lover and can repair all mistakes of nature. Do not ask her after each intercourse, whether she has come or not. It can provoke her simulation or alienate her. She can also avoid having sex with you. Dont ache about her faults and dont have temperament! In such a way, youll only aggravate the situation. Youd better pay less attention to it.
If your partner doesnt come constantly, you should choose a proper time for a talk.
You are sure of your sexual skills, which can key up any woman. And you cant believe that your partner is different. May be she feels shy of having oral sex and cant relax.
Help her to overcome her shyness and awkwardness.
Try to understand what she really likes and what she dislikes.
Be ready to find out some unusual things, which contradict to your own conception about female desires.
Its necessary to find out what really arouses her. Of course it will be difficult to confess each other your sexual preferences. But your relationship should be as sincere as possible. Only being open with each other, youll become a really loving couple.