Dating tips

There is a wide-spread misconception that homosexuals prefer changing partners and are not able to have long-lasting and stable relationships. Wed like to emphasize that this statement has nothing in common with real life.

Youve been already self-identified and decided that you are a lesbian. But you do not have a constant partner and have no idea where you can meet her. Wed like to cheer you up and give some tips useful for you future life.

At first, if you are sure about your orientation, you should know that youve already done a great job. Many women can not determine their orientation during lots of years and sometimes during their whole life. The others feel addiction to women, but they are afraid of it and try to cover their true feelings. Such women have to live with constant stress and depression.

You have chosen another way. And you next step towards freedom will be an affair with an interesting woman. But you wonder where you can meet her and how to approach her first time.

Here you can find the answers to some of questions.

1. Where can you meet the woman you dream about?

Nowadays you can meet lesbians everywhere. The problem is that sometimes its rather difficult to recognize them. Not all the lesbians wear short hair, heavy boots and look masculine. The majority of them can look like common women and can be easily taken for heterosexuals. Thats why lesbians have organized some special places for their meetings.

Lesbian and gays bars

The first place you can visit is lesbian and gay bar. There you can be sure that you are among like-minded persons and there are no strangers. However, you can find unpleasant atmosphere and feel awkwardly. It could be just the first impression. In this case try to visit this place several times and it will be better to take your friends with you in order to feel more confident. If the unpleasant atmosphere doesnt change, youd better change the bar.

We also advise you not to drink much. Drinking usually puts a false color on reality.

Other places

Meeting in bar has its disadvantages. There you can meet a lot of women, but not all of them will be interested in serious relationships. Some of them are focused only on sex. If you are looking for something else, youd better get acquainted with the other woman through activity. This way is also good for those who is too shy to approach a woman in a public place. Having common interests youll understand each others better. Think carefully what you like doing the most and join any kind of club, community or group. Its better when you join homosexual community.This way youll kill two birds with one stone. On the one hand youll be of use by:

- fighting for gay and lesbian rights

- joining as volunteer at charitable group

On the other hand, you will get an opportunity to find a woman of your dream.

The other way of getting acquainted is meeting trough your friends. This way youll avoid additional problems. Moreover, youll be able to get prior information about the person you are interested in.

Dating services and personal ads

Some people avoid applying dating servicesbecause of wide-spread stereotypes. They believe that such services are for losers and women who have lost their last hope. Some others consider that people who use it do not have serious intentions. In fact, it could be the true, but there are a lot of examples of happy couples who had recourse to these services.

You can also place your personal adat the special sites, in the paper or magazine. When looking through other ads, pay attention to those women who live nearby or have the same interests. Writing an ad for the first time is a rather difficult task. Try to avoid using trite expressions and clichés. Make your ad unique as you are. And do not be too serious! Take it easy!

2. How to approach the person that has attracted you attention?

Its not a big problem to approach a stranger for some women. But there are persons for whom its a real trouble.

At first, its better to catch her eyes. Visual contact is one of the most important moments in flirting.After she has noticed your interest you can easier approach her. Even if you havent caught her eyes; you should try to introduce yourself. There are many variants of opening lines:

-Hi, my name is.

-Are you a constant visitor of this place?

-You have beautiful eyes/face/hair.

-Im for the first time here and dont know anybody

-I like your dress/shirt/ cap

-You are the most attractive person here

In fact, you can confess her how difficult it was for you to approach her. In most cases fairness is the best path. The other good opening line is any kind of compliment. Remember that it should not sound trivial. It will be better if youll choose your own unique approach. Dont invent something difficult, your opening line can be very simple. In fact, even though you dont succeed the very first time, do not give it up as a bad job. Any attempt is better than staying in a corner and waiting for someones initiative.

And do not forget to smile!

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