What to do if you dont get orgasm?
What to do you do if you partner doesnt come?

There are several types of orgasm:

1. Clitoral orgasm
2. Vaginal orgasm
3. Orgasm when genitals are not involved

Clitoral orgasm

Clitoris is the most highly sensitive zone for 25% of women. You can bring your partner to a clitoral orgasm while stimulating her with tongue (cunnilingus) or hands.

Vaginal orgasm

Vaginal orgasm is less common than clitoral one. Vaginal orgasm is common for those lesbians, who used to have regular sex with men. But this statement is not a rule. If you want to attain such an orgasm, use vaginal stimulation with a finger or help yourself using a dildo.
Some certain dependence was discovered: the more intensive stimulation is the more transient is orgasm. If stimulating more slowly and unhurried, you will get prolonged and more sensitive orgasm.

But there are no rules and no ready answers. Some women need only pronaus stimulation. The others need deeper penetration and stimulation of uterine neck. Its believed that G-Spot is also one of the most sensitive erogenous zones. Sometimes its difficult to find its location. This area is situated about 5cm/2 inches inside the vagina towards the front wall.

Other types of orgasm

Sometimes woman comes without involving her genitals. Such cases are rather seldom and only one in ten women is able to experience this orgasm. It can be provoked by necking and intense arousal without any of genital stimulation.

Statistics

Usually orgasm lasts from 10 to 15 seconds. But there are some women who are able to come in a minute.

Orgasm classification:

single orgasm
multiorgasm
Single orgasm is more widespread than multiorgasm. Some women are able to come only once a night, the others can get pleasure several times in series.
According to the statistical data, 50% of women come rather often, about 30% - seldom, and only 17% of women never experience orgasm. Scientists have also discovered that 67% of women do not come while having coitus interruptus. But its all about heterosexuals.
Good news: 2/3 of lesbians come in 90-100% of their sexual contacts.

Anorgasmy. Is it anomaly or lack of experience?

The orgasm absence is also called anorgasmy.

Types of anorgasmy:

1. A woman feels up high while having sex, but she doesnt come
2. A woman is indifferent to intercourse; she doesnt feel sexual arousal and does not get her satisfaction.
3. The intercourse is not desirable, its associated with unpleasant feelings and sensations.

Anorgasmy and frigidity are not synonymous; however they are vastly connected with each other. If your girl-friend doesnt come it doesnt mean that she is cold and not interested in sex. Its proved that women, who dont come are interested in sex in most of the cases. Moreover, they have sex and get a great pleasure. Orgasm is a matter of experience. If it hasnt happen once, it doesnt mean that it will never happen.
If male orgasm occurs automatically in the moment of ejaculation, female one is not necessary to occur during each intercourse. The ability to feel orgasm comes to each woman with her age. There are several reasons for it. At first, woman gains experience. She learns to feel her body and desires. There are no rules how to learn to come. Each woman is unique, she is like a musical instrument. One should learn to play it.

Why one cant come?

Orgasm is a delicate matter and depends much on psychological factors. If you partner had an interval in her sexual life, it can result in a short term anorgasmy. Just train a little and it will disappear.
Constant absence of orgasm can be also caused by survival guilt for not normal sexual orientation which contradicts to that suggested by parents.
There are also physical and psychological reasons. Physical factors include different organs diseases, problems with endocrine system, etc.
Psychological factors cover such problems as:
- conflicts with partner or co-workers
- sense of discomfort and instability
- subconscious diffidence
- psychic trauma of childhood
All this factors affect orgasm.
Very often the main cause of anorgasmy is the very desire to attain it. In fact, women are often afraid to fail. They do their best to attain orgasm, but they cannot manage it.

Sexual saturation without orgasm

Sexual arousal cant last constantly. Sexual saturation occurs instead of orgasm. It can be also called emotional recession. Its a normal body reaction on stimulation. But lack of intense relief often causes short restitution period and woman is ready for the next intercourse after a short period of time. One can think that it is wonderful to have such a partner. But women consider anorgasmy to be a fail or stain. They suffer from it so profound and tragic, as men suffer from impotence.

Researches show that women who dont get orgasm often complain about frustration, dissatisfaction, nervous excitement, depression and feeling of general oppression.
In fact, absence of sexual relief can lead to neurosis, hysteria and menstrual disorders. If lasting rather long period of time, it can result in decrease of sexual desire. A woman can conceive an aversion to her partner or sexual life in general. The list of negative consequences is rather long: soreness during menstrual period, grievous premenstrual syndrome, etc. Hormonal changes can provoke development of pathological processes in female breast. Some scientists consider that anorgasmy can lead to many diseases.

Frigidity among nymphomaniacs is another kind of anorgasmy. In these cases a woman feels high arousal but she doesnt get orgasm in spite of long, intensive stimulation.